What should i do with my Wife?

You love your wife enough for her to be happy at your expense. Divorce her so that she won't be cheating anymore. Then she can be a selfish ****** with out putting you out. You deserve better, your kids deserve better. I have a cousin going through the same issues with his on again off again wife. He's being put through hell for her and she's too selfish to realize what damage she's causing. Get out now, save some heartache. But don't let her do what she pleases at your expense either emotionally or financially. I really feel for ya but man you deserve better. If she wasn't looking to grind up on other fellas then she'd invite you to club it up with her. Best of luck. Unfortunately if she's not willing to commit to you then divorce is the answer.